Take a blank sheet of paper, run a vertical line through it, and a horizontal one about a centimeter from the top of the sheet. This is your “cross”…
A cross where you honestly and impartially record when you have acted rightly and wrongly in conflict situations.
And then answer the following questions truthfully:
What am I doing?
How am I doing it?
Why am I doing it?
What is useful to me and what is useful to me and everyone else at the same time?
What is useful for everyone else but me?
These questions apply to each of the elements written in the “cross”. By answering all of them, you will discover a common relationship that is a principle as your characteristic for all the elements. In this way, you can determine in principle what your basic filtrations are. And by knowing them, you get to know the options for change. This process is called analysis.
Analysis (from ancient Greek ἀνάλυσις – decomposition, dismemberment, division) is the operation of mentally or actually dividing the whole (objects, properties, processes, or relations between objects and phenomena) into component parts, in the process of learning about or accumulating practical experience. In addition to synthesis, the method of analysis makes it possible to obtain information about the structure of the subject or object of study. An analysis is a method of research.
The other method of examining the elements of the cross as a common global interaction (feature, filter, habit) with the environment is synthesis.
Synthesis (derived from the Greek σύνθεσις meaning joining, connecting) is the process or method of uniting two or more separate elements or constituent parts into a whole or into an aggregate. Synthesis is the opposite of analysis (i.e., dividing the whole into its component parts). Synthesis is a method of research that connects separate elements into a whole and in this way studies the nature of phenomena.
In the study of life, we do both at the same time – we do analyntesis. It is the action of the whole upon the elements that make up the whole itself. It is looking at the little things that give rise to the whole, but none of them has priority. Then the properties of the global whole are shaped by each individuality contained within it. Every change in the elements also leads to a change in the whole.
Note: The main connection we need to make when doing an analyntesis is the awareness of the fact that we are holograms. A defining property of the hologram is that the part contains the whole and the whole is contained in the part. This means that if we do something in one place, we will apply it everywhere, regardless of whether we think we are doing it that way or not. We usually focus on the detail from which we draw global conclusions that are always “in our favor.” In doing so, we don’t self-criticize, which is the main reason for not changing.
If we are doing a particular detail (e.g. denial) very often, we need to start looking impartially at where that detail manifests. We will find that the detail (denial) itself exists in our every action, remark, or way of thinking – and at a very high percentage (about 97%). For change to occur, we need to begin to express, think and act differently from what we have noticed as a tendency in ourselves. Then we understand and realize the effort it takes to change the supposedly innocent elementary single detail (denial).
Example: “Are you hungry?” – instead of answering “No”, say the positive, non-denying “I already ate”. Instead of “I don’t want to”, say “I want to…”, etc.
The time has come to put your cross – an honest and unbiased examination of your own cons in the name of Change!
